I Did Everything “Right”… and It Still Backfired
Growing up, I was always active and athletic.
I was naturally lean, looked fit, and in college I got even more into working out because I loved how it shaped my body.
I felt strong, confident, and loved it.
Then I decided to take it to the next level, and that's where things started to go sideways.
I went all in. 1400 calories. Cardio twice a day. Lifting 5-6 days a week. Macros had to be perfect.
On paper, I was doing everything "right." And at first... it worked.
I got leaner than I'd ever been. But behind the scenes, I felt like shit.
I was starving all the time. My energy was trash. I wasn't sleeping. I was cranky, and honestly, not very fun to be around. And the worst part...
I became obsessed. Everything revolved around food and staying "on plan." Eventually I burned out, and it wasn't a small slip.
It was a whole bag of Oreos in a weekend, the weight creeping back, and that same sick feeling of having to start over again.
So I did what I thought I needed to do. Push harder. Do more.
All in, burnout, fall off, start over. Over and over.
A busy week at work would wreck a plan that only worked when everything was calm.
A trip out of town meant "I'll just get back on track when I'm home," and I never quite did, not all the way.
One of the worst ones was after a fight with my boyfriend. I ate an entire pint of Ben & Jerry's standing at the counter.
And because I'd "messed up," I told myself I'd start Monday. Monday turned into another month.
Any stress at all, and the "perfect" plan I'd built had nowhere to bend. So it just broke...
The Moment It Really Hit Me
I remember when my clothes stopped fitting.
Not a little tight. I couldn't button my jeans. And there was no way I was buying a bigger size.
So I avoided it. Lived in workout clothes. Pretended it wasn't happening.
And kept telling myself, I just need to try harder.
But deep down, I knew. Trying harder wasn't fixing it.
What I Finally Realized
At some point I had to be honest with myself.
The problem wasn't that I wasn't disciplined enough. It was that I was doing too much.
Every time I tried to lose fat, I went extreme. Rigid. All or nothing.
Of course I couldn't sustain it.
I was trying to force my body to change by making everything harder...
...instead of building something I could actually stick to on a regular week, not just a perfect one.
What I Did Instead
So I did the opposite of what I thought I "should" do.
I trained 3-4 times a week instead of 5-6.
I walked more instead of piling on cardio.
I ate more instead of as little as possible.
I stopped trying to be perfect, and I built in room for the weeks that weren't.
I won't lie, that part was uncomfortable. I constantly felt like I wasn't doing enough.
In the back of my head I kept thinking, should I cut calories more? Add more workouts? Do more?
But every time I went back to that mindset...
...I ended up right back where I started. Burned out. Overeating. Starting over.
What I See Now (After 20+ Years of Coaching)
After working with thousands of women, I can tell you this.
The women who struggle the most aren't the ones who don't care.
They're the ones doing the most. Trying to do everything right.
And they're stuck in the same cycle I was.
Push harder, burn out, fall off, start over.
And what throws them off...
It's a busy stretch at work. A fight with their partner. A vacation. A hard week where the plan had no room to bend.
And they think the solution is more discipline. It's not.
It's a better approach. One that doesn't rely on extremes or perfection.
One that actually works with your life instead of against it.
If This Sounds Familiar...
If you feel like you're trying hard but not getting the results you should be...
...you're not broken, but your approach might be.
And if you don't fix that, you'll keep repeating the same cycle, no matter how motivated you are.
You don't need to go harder. You need to stop doing the things that are burning you out in the first place.
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If you're putting in effort but not seeing it pay off.
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